More and more I hear my words and experiences coming out of peoples mouths. Experiences of abuse, usually of power but, not in every case.
Most recently, former US weapons inspector John Ritter spoke in his interview with Gerald Celente that made basic points I made for decades but about the abusive family. John said; "A citizens job isn't to sit back and allow their Government to do whatever they want. A citizens job is to empower themselves with knowledge and information and hold their Government to account when they're deviating from the norms and values we claim to embrace as a people".
There is No greater place to see this than in the average American "family".
Instead of the people bringing their Government back into alignment when its been deviating for decades the people have deviated WITH the US Corporate government.
What Scott Ritter said is what I naturally and healthily did as a youth in the 70s and was criminalized for it to this day.
Its been the breakdown and the destruction of the Family that has allowed this country to arrive where it has. One feeds the other. The more our government gets hijacked by rogue entities the people become adjusted and in turn enable the Corporate government to deviate even more like any dysfunctional, abusive relationship just on a larger scale.
I have to mention parts of the Johnny Depp, Amber Heard defamation trial i caught some of in the last few weeks.
I spent my life since the 70s learning, reading as much as I could about the Family, dysfunctional relationships, child abuse, co dependency, enabling, how healthy families are supposed to function, what child abuse and neglect does to the health of the child later in life.
In my experience dysfunctional relationships weren't just in families. As time passed I found them to be everywhere. So many people didn't have a clue how healthy relationships function, what healthy boundaries are, how to listen, validate what another person feels and knows, especially young people.
It was normal that children had no rights and no voice in uneducated, working class families.
It should be common sense that we can't have a healthy government/country without healthy families and communities.
One is a reflection of the other. The family is a blood sample of the country.
I have been very interested in the subject of abusive relationships, the family and child abuse for 5 decades.
In hearing some of the testimony of Johnny Depp and his older sister Christi Dembrowski about their mother abusing the entire family, 4 children plus their father.
Both Christi and JD testified how the father stood "stoic" taking the verbal abuse never fighting back or reacting toward their mother. JD said he saw his father punch a concrete wall injuring his hand.
Christi testified their Dad would comply with whatever the mother wanted in order to "keep the peace". My ears perked up upon hearing this. This is where we can learn so much about our current state of affairs in the US and world by paying closer attention to and understanding the dynamic of the Family and learn to have healthier boundaries.
Complying to abusers never creates "peace", it only invites more abuse. It literally teaches abusers to abuse more. It funds abuse. Its simple physics. Those who comply rather than challenge the abuser end up sacrificing too much of themselves, losing themselves, shrinking the very parts of themselves that are in the right, while fattening the abuser, teaching the abuser to have overreach.
Setting healthy boundaries is one of the most important skills to know.
Why do we have such unhealthy families in the US? Why don't people know how to have healthy families/ relationships?
In a testimony given by an LAPD female officer she testified to the amount of domestic violence calls they receive a day. WHY? What are our priorities in the US? Don't people want a safe and supportive environment to live in? And work in?
Are we, as a country, willing to desecrate one of the most important and valuable institutions and allow it to go.extinct?
Are we going to allow anything that isn't nailed down, any even what IS nailed down, to be sold for $?
I see the family, community and children as something to be protected and defended at all costs like the environment. If we lose them, we've lost everything.
If we sacrifice what we should be defending even to abusers in our own families how can we know what to where to draw the line with our "government?"
When we suppress our healthy bodies defenses to.protect ourselves against ALL enemies, foreign and domestic, we won't be able to distinguish between the two. People learn to let the enemy in right in their own "homes". To disarm their healthy defenses in their own family. This is how people end up attracting abusers when they get older.
We are living the same dynamic in Ukraine with NATO expansion triggering Putin to protect his borders.
When we do not understand where the lines are drawn, who is the aggressor and who is defending themselves we will live in an endless cycle of abuse and war until we anilhilate ourselves.
If we cannot see child abuse as wrong and children those who should be protected not sacrificed we are finished as a society.
Catherine Watters
Great piece Cat. I especially like your line, " It should be common sense that we can't have a healthy government/country without healthy families and communities..."